Keep God First

It’s easy to get lost in your love and forget to put God first, especially early in your marriage. Sometimes you get so enthralled in the wonder of becoming one and you’re so busy adjusting to living together that you forget where God fits in.
Just remember that your spouse can’t meet all your needs. The truth is, only God can. There will be times in your marriage when you feel lonely or disappointed. But often that happens when you put all your hopes and dreams on your spouse, but truth is, no one person can totally fulfill all your needs.
Don’t expect your mate to be your all in all or you’ll be sorely disappointed. 2 Peter 1:3/Matt 6:25-34

Denominational Differences

There’s a dimension of being connected to each other that’s deeper and stronger than just about anything else. It’s the spiritual realm, and, whether you realize it or not, it’s an area you should agree on.
If the two of you have differing belief systems and different denominations, or if one of you is Catholic and one is Protestant, it is likely there will be difficulties as a result. The time to talk about this before you get married.
If you’re from different denominations, called interdenominational marriages, and you choose to stay in your separate denominations, this will bring challenges to your marriage. Where will you go to church? How will you raise your children?
A Catholic/Protestant marriage brings similar challenges. The church may even bring condemnation of this, and then what?
We suggest you discuss these issues thoroughly and make a plan of action before you marry. If you can’t come to a mutual decision, slow down and revisit your plans to marry and/or get help from a Christian counselor who can help you navigate this touchy issue. Don’t wait till you have kids and end up fighting over the child’s baptism or other faith issues. Discuss and resolve it together now.

When Beliefs Clash

It's funny how nitpicky we can get. One of you thinks that "post-trib" is correct; the other believes "pre-trib" is right. So what do
you do when your beliefs clash?
Rarely do all of us believe exactly the same thing. One enjoys traditional hymns while the other likes the contemporary praise songs. One isn't too sure about God's healing power and the other thinks it stopped when Jesus died.
As a couple, majoring on the majors is a wise thing to do, and giving each other space to grow spiritually is imperative. If both of you have the same belief in Christ as Savior, God as Father, and the Holy Spirit as your guide, than you're on the right track. Frankly, you're on a lifelong journey together, and through the years you may change some of your beliefs about those more minor things as you grow in Him through learning biblical truth, hearing the Word in church and gathering in small groups and other places where you can come to understand His ways better.
So unless one of you believes some off-the-wall heresy that goes against biblical truth, relax and learn together. Be careful not to judge one another or demand the other align with what you think. But if there are issues you¹re really concerned about, talk to your pastor, read the Scriptures and see what God has to say—together.

At Your Service

Getting involved in ministry is a great way for engaged or married couples to grow together in your faith. Your church likely has many opportunities to serve both there and in your local community. Working in the church nursery together can help you see how each of you interacts with children.

Serving in a soup kitchen can show you how your loved one has a heart of compassion. Building a Habitat for Humanity home some Saturday can show you your loved one’s work ethic like little else can. Want to see godly aspects of each other as you grow spiritually? Serve together.