He Doesn’t Care

So many brides-to-be complain that their fiancé just isn’t interested in the wedding plans. “Whatever you want, honey,” becomes a typical answer when she seeks his input on the details. And that often makes her feel disengaged and frustrated. So what’s a woman to do?
First, consider your attitude about those plans. Are you so stressed that you cause your future husband to feel stressed too? Is it possible you get a little pushy so much so that he wants to push back—or seems to bow out? Do you exude an anxious heart that tends to make him nervous? Often, in the stress of planning, a woman can feel all these emotions and more.
Talk about your concerns with your future mate. Tell him how you really want him to be a part of the planning, and then together, make plans to tackle all the details in a fun way. Maybe you make a date to look at flowers and another to check out the church. Make it fun, and you’ll get your man onboard.

She Expects Too Much

"My fiance is driving me crazy...she expects a million dollar wedding, and I don't know what to do." How many guys feel this way? The bride want her Cinderella moment, but the practical Prince knows they should be working within the very limited budget her parents provided. Still, he wants to please her and make the wedding special, but not at the price of going into debt as a couple. What's a man to do?

First, it's time to have a long and honest discussion about the wedding budget. Pull it out and put every wedding expense on paper, even if it hurts. Decide what's really important to both of you, and pledge to one another not to go into debt for this one-day event. If you still have trouble talking reasonably about this conflict, talk to your pastor or a couple who you respect for their wisdom and who can help you both work through this.